Now we have to learn jujitsu

Hi Reader,

So last week, I got a few unsubscribes from my email list. Unsubscribes are part of the newsletter world, but also, not fun. And it was especially not fun realizing some of the unsubscribers were people I knew. So I knew it was likely because of my pro-Jimmy Kimmel, pro-freedom-of-speech, pro-women stance. Yikes.

In a normal world, one where women’s rights weren’t being systematically stripped away, I might care about this a little more. It might give me pause. And I might think that well, perhaps I should zip it.

And I would, really, if the stakes weren’t so high.

Almost 17 years ago, I had my baby girl. My husband and I were already parents of a boisterous little boy, and we didn’t know what the sex of this new baby was going to be until she arrived, furiously and fiery, in the world. And as soon as she did—and I mean within a minute of her birth—my husband looked me straight in the bloodshot and weary eyes and declared that he and my son now had to learn jujitsu.

I laughed a little, because I knew he was feeling totally over-protective of this brand-new life. But there was nothing really funny about it.

Because Ed (my husband) wasn’t being sexist. He was, instead, hyper aware of the fact that this baby was going to move through the world with fewer freedoms, fewer protections, and more risks than our other baby, simply by virtue of being born a girl.

This is why I refuse to sidestep in this space.

It’s why I keep at it.

And so, thankfully, do plenty of you.

Some of you do that just by keeping up with the news, talking about it, sharing information. Some by protesting. Some by making calls. Some by starting your own movements, nonprofits, businesses, rebellions or crusades. Some by making art. Some by choosing joy, and beauty, and kindness.

To all of you, thank you. Thank you for showing up in whatever way you can, and for standing alongside me as I try to do the same.

Here’s the thing: unsubscribes aren’t the end of the world. But silence can be. And the antidote to silence is sharing.

So if you believe women’s stories deserve to be amplified—if you’ve ever thought, “More people need to hear this”—here’s my ask:

👉 Forward this email to one friend who needs to be reminded her voice matters.

Because too often, women’s voices are treated as optional. As background noise. As something that can be muted if it’s making people uncomfortable.

This season, you’ll hear from women who refuse to be silenced:

· Gina Lamanna, founder of The Fondle Project—turning breast cancer awareness into bold, wearable activism, blending creativity and fashion to spark conversations that might otherwise stay hidden.

· Maria Haugen, founder of FOXX Health—part entrepreneur, part agitator, she’s reshaping how women access care by calling out what’s broken and building what’s missing.

· Stephanie Thompson, Brave Mumma—not an activist or a CEO, but a survivor who refuses to stay quiet. Her story of injury and resilience forces us to rethink how we talk about pain and recovery.

Season 3 of Roar launches Tuesday, October 7, and I’ll be here every Tuesday with conversations that challenge, inspire, and insist on being heard.

Until then,

Danielle

Writer. Podcast Host. Speaker.

I’m Danielle Davies—writer, speaker, and host of Roar. Dispatches is where I share what I’m thinking about, working on, or trying to make sense of.